Has this ever happened to you?
You go out for the day looking to find attractive women to meet.
You are focused.
You are really making an effort.
Then when you see that "one" you REALLY want to meet, you feel completely frozen and really STRUGGLE to know how to go to her and start a conversation?
OR, maybe this sounds like you...
It's not that you are necessarily so nervous about speaking to attractive women when you see one.
It's that you tend to get caught "off guard" and never seem to be ready when you get the opportunity to speak with one of these women.
And why does it seem like some guys don't have to do nearly as much approaching as you do -- women seem to just gravitate to them...
It all has to do with one thing.
The bad news is that "one thing" is you.
The GOOD NEWS far outweighs the bad though...
The good news is you can change this literally in an instant.
Let me share with you the POWER of the art of follow up.
The key to being able to easily communicate with - and even be approached by - the women to whom you are most attracted, is to follow up with everybody.
Let me explain...
Following up keeps you in a very social environment, and it keeps you very socially engaged all day long.
So many men will not follow up with women to whom they've talked so, in turn, women don't follow up with them.
You want to be able to go out, play, and just have a good time.
Even if you're not interested in a person, following up is important because other people are always looking at you.
You will notice that especially when you are having fun, people will check you out and look at you.
>>>HINT: "People" includes all those women you are most wanting to meet.
For any of you who are unclear about what "the follow up" is, let me give you an example:
So say you're walking through a mall and you see a woman that you've talked to before but aren't really that attracted to her.
You can still follow up and say "What are you doing? Are you making laps around the mall?"
By either saying something playful or saying something based on what you remember from your previous conversation, the two other women who are walking in your direction will notice that and notice the woman smiling at you.
**This will give you INSTANT social proof.**
Everyone wants to talk to the fun person.
Nobody wants to be approached by or to approach the boring person.
You're basically building up your social energy.
This is why I constantly stress how important it is to talk to EVERYBODY.
You have to make yourself available - emotionally, mentally and physically.
This is where most guys make the biggest mistake.
They will wait and only talk to that one person to whom they are attracted.
If you do this, you're going to be so nervous that you won't be able to actually speak to that person!
The longer you wait between conversations with people of the opposite sex, the bigger it gets built up and the more the monkey chatter increases in your head.
You'll get more nervous and the experience will become more traumatic.
One great technique you can try if this is hard for you, is to give people compliments.
This is a great technique because compliments have no outcome derivative.
Paying someone a wonderful compliment, e.g., telling them they look great, basically opens up your energy.
It's like good karma.
You can just walk over to someone and say, "Wow, that dress looks great on you!"
Don't expect anything back from them. You should never expect anything from anybody.
One client of mine termed this as "the throw and go."
The "throw and go" will keep up your social momentum, and it will also keep you in a good frame of mind.
If you're in a good mindset, you'll feel good and you'll stay open to opportunities.
David Wygant is the nation's leading personal
dating coach, professional dating agent and image-maker. Recognized as
the world's premier dating authority, David brings his extensive
experience and coaching expertise to change the lives of thousands of
singles everywhere by giving them real life dating advice.